A Few Pros and Cons of Vulnerability

  • Putting things that live in your mind out into the real world is much easier said than done.

When I sort of half soft-launched my side hustle/got really excited/was open and gaining confidence in the concept, it was a lot of feels. My mind was racing with creativity, generating a million ideas of how I could go about building my business. I don’t mean to toot my own horn, but I think I’m pretty good at a number of things and I don’t want to be confined to a one track life. I will be forever working on untangling the jumbled up, but also delightful mess that can be my brain at times, but I don’t think I’d have it any other way.

When it comes to vulnerability, sometimes sharing with others helps, and sometimes it hurts. The biggest benefit I have experienced because of vulnerability is the authentic perspective and insight I have gained. I could go into so many specifics, but ultimately it has helped me learn how to best communicate my POV in a way that might actually be understood. It’s the thing that makes conversations and connections real. The thing that makes you uncomfortable at first, but more comfortable in the end.

For me personally, the vulnerability loops over the last several years are the reason I’m even sitting here today writing this journal entry out for you (and the rest of the internet to see). Cheers to all of us as we continue on our journey towards real places of meaning and fulfillment as we pursue our goals and dreams.

Here’s a list I made in my phone one time when I was really sad and discouraged in August of 2018. (Does anybody else make weird lists in their phone sometimes? …no? Just me. Well… this is awkward, but here we go…)

  • Pro: met so many wonderful people this summer and made a lot of great connections

  • Con: can never quite tell who is trying to be my friend and who is using me for X, Y and/or Z

  • Pro: was able to genuinely provide support and coaching two friends who tried out my life and career coaching services

  • Con: feel like I’m under a microscope because people know what I legitimately think (am I not the one who over shared online in the first place?)

  • Pro: feel like I am discovering my purpose in life, assuming there is such a thing (lust)

  • Con: experiencing how it feels when an epiphany shatters (the break up)

  • Pro: gaining resilience

  • Con: crying and puffy eyelids

No, this is not intended to be a sob story and it’s not supposed to be a woe is me moment either. It’s really just life. (Which can be quite the sob story sometimes. Oh, the irony.)

The good news is, the pros and cons come in waves. And we can get through anything we set our minds to. Often times for me, criticism is not easy to take. But look what happened when I slowed down, reflected, strategized and implemented: I actually made it to the part where what didn’t kill me made me stronger. It’s going to be an interesting year.

Ashley OchiaghaComment